Step Five: "We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs".
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed" (James 5:16).
Step Five is maybe the scariest of all of the steps. The thought of confessing sins can intimidate just about anyone. I've been in the middle of several confessions-gone-wrong and I so I completely understand why the thought of confessing sins would be frightening. People don't always keep confidence. People don't always extend Christ's grace and forgiveness. People don't always represent the gospel very well. Though scary, confession remains essential and a fundamental biblical principle. James 5:16 concludes, "Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much".
Don Williams in his book, Jesus and Addiction, writes, "Confession is the only way we can be free from captivity. Through confession, we're not only admitting our sins, but also giving ourselves to God to be brought into a right relationship with him through the death of his Son". It's the sharing of our stuff with Jesus and with His human representatives that allows the murky shadows to become brilliantly cleansed. It's not an option--it's essential in our spiritual development. We must confess our sins to each other. Williams continues, "If we don't seek others out in confession, we will miss an important spiritual, relational, and biblical truth--God ministers to us through others. They are often the means through which Jesus makes his intercession and mercy effective. As we confess, our hypocrisy will blessedly melt. We will no longer be religious but real. After people see our brokenness and tears they will extend their love and mercy in Jesus' name."
"To be freed from fear is to be free to face our sins and acknowledge our pain before God and each other" --Don Williams, Jesus and Addiction.