"'Honor your father and mother.' This is the first of the Ten Commandments that ends with a promise. And this is the promise: If you honor your father and mother, 'you will live a long life, full of blessing.'" (Ephesians 6:2-3)
The word "honor" in this passage is sometimes translated "value" in
other New Testament passages. We are to value our parents--to honor
them. The command is not simply for little children, it is for all of
us--of all ages, whether our parents are living or dead. We are to
value them. The command does not exclude parents who may have done a
poor job parenting. It does not exclude parents who may have been
absent. All parents are to be honored.
If your parents are or were great parents, then you may have no issue
with the command. If your parents were not so great, then it's a bit
more difficult. Like all of our relationships, we are to learn to see
people through the eyes of God--as He sees them--broken and flawed
individuals created in the image of God. Ask God to open your eyes to
see what He sees--to know what He knows--and to value what He values.
Invite the Holy Spirit to do a transformational work in your heart.
Like everything else in the Christian life, we express value by faith
and grace--faith that there is more there than our eyes can see, and grace--the unmerited favor that is given through an ocean of love.
Paul emphasizes that there is a reward for honoring parents. We are
promised a long life, full of blessing. Do you need a blessing today?
God says, "Honor your father and mother."